Did anyone else hear about this? A company in Japan is trying to make the word "Fat" cool, and so they have introduced the following sizes into the clothes market: Titch (ちっちゃ, tiny) Skinny, Fat and Jumbo. You can just feel your self esteem soar
"But what if I want a medium?"Wandering_Fox wrote:Did anyone else hear about this? A company in Japan is trying to make the word "Fat" cool, and so they have introduced the following sizes into the clothes market: Titch (ちっちゃ, tiny) Skinny, Fat and Jumbo. You can just feel your self esteem soar
Your typical 2-year-old. She's doing fine.flowersofnight wrote:She knows how to say please now, when she wants something she'll say "May I please have ____"
But if you say that to her, she'll just say "NO"
"Jumbo"? Why not "Monstrous"?Wandering_Fox wrote:Did anyone else hear about this? A company in Japan is trying to make the word "Fat" cool, and so they have introduced the following sizes into the clothes market: Titch (ちっちゃ, tiny) Skinny, Fat and Jumbo. You can just feel your self esteem soar
Wandering_Fox wrote:Did anyone else hear about this? A company in Japan is trying to make the word "Fat" cool, and so they have introduced the following sizes into the clothes market: Titch (ちっちゃ, tiny) Skinny, Fat and Jumbo. You can just feel your self esteem soar
PureElegance wrote:OMG look at her! She has to be my daughter. That coat, the bow, the hair, just look at that! So cute!
Really, right? I would actually dress my daughter that way. She even has my colors on! I remember my friend a while ago said she imagines herself in the future living in a box and me strolling by the box arm in arm with my husband, I'm wearing a long fur coat and I see the box and say, "Is that you, old friend??" Hahahaha, I don't know about that (people have high expectations for me!), but my daughter will dress like the girl in the picture! IF IT'S THE LAST THING I DO~ SHE NEEDS TO HAVE MY AWESOME SENSE OF STYLE~~~Wandering_Fox wrote:This is just uncanny! Seriously!
I really agree with these lines:At the No. 8 Hot Pot Restaurant in Beijing, a school bell rings at 5:30 P.M. sharp. Diners sit at old-style wooden desks rather than tables. The menu is a multiple-choice test. Instead of waiters, there are class monitors, who respond to raised hands. Not everyone can eat here, though. The restaurant is designed exclusively for people born between 1980 and 1989; I.D.s are checked at the door.
“We don’t mean to exclude anyone,” said Yuan Bao, the owner, an affable thirty-two-year-old with long bangs, dressed in cargo pants and a T-shirt with a skull on it. It’s just that “we know we all have similar memories and experiences.” Yuan’s goal is to create a safe space where his patrons can recall a very specific era of childhood innocence. It appears to be working: when the tinny, saccharine strains of a classic children’s song came on the restaurant’s sound system, one twenty-five-year-old diner said that it made her want to cry.
The classroom restaurant is part of a wave of nostalgia sweeping the generation of Chinese born between 1980 and 1989, known in China as baling hou, or “post-eighties.”
Through nostalgia, the researchers claimed, we bring back to the surface evidence of past triumphs and close relationships, times when our lives felt safe and ordered. Clay Routledge, a psychologist and nostalgia researcher at North Dakota State University, explained, “You’re affirming the self—’I’ve done great things’—which is presumably predictive of the future. ‘I might be uncertain right now, but just look at my past. I’m a likeable person. I’m destined for great things.’ ”
I saw this picture again, of Laura and me pedal-boating in Changfeng Park, and I can't believe it happened!That nostalgia could be a source of mental resilience and motivation directly challenges certain critics’ notion of the sentiment as paralyzing, a harbinger of cultural stagnation. “It’s exactly the opposite,” Constantine Sedikides, a psychologist and nostalgia expert at the University of Southampton, said. “When you become nostalgic, you don’t become past-oriented. You want to go out there and do things.”
That was pretty harmless, and rather nice.Wandering_Fox wrote:This must have been absolutely marvelous to witness.
And this girl, Alexandra Sadikova, says:#6195: "During my freshman year, I had a roommate who kept getting into fights with his girlfriend. One night, I came home to find them in a heated argument, and all of a sudden, he started furiously beating her. So many offices on campus got involved in the matter, and I even got moved out of my room because Housing was concerned for my safety. I found out later that this incident wasn't the first time my roommate had abused his girlfriend. Later, I was told that NYU dropped the incident entirely. Today, I learned that they were still together and that he is continuing to abuse her emotionally and physically. Her friends have constantly reprimanded him for his disgusting actions and tried to convince his girlfriend that this is a toxic relationship, but she insists on giving him more chances. We all sincerely hope that she realizes she deserves someone who treats her with love, kindness, and respect."
People, victims too, are arguing against her (rightly so), but she keeps saying these things:What did she do to start it? Couldn't she just leave the fucking relationship? She's the moron for staying, it says a lot about her self esteem.
It never starts out as an abusive relationship. Not only that, but the emotional and physical abuse, the threatening, the promises, children, the dependency that can develop, the isolation, make it so hard to leave. The scary thing is that it can happen to anyone. Not everyone has good parents, good friends, great self-esteem, but even if they did it doesn't automatically make them immune to abusive relationships (or sexual harassment, as I learned first-hand!) I can't stand victim-blaming. We wondered how best to combat abusive relationships/domestic violence in the US, but it's hard, especially since much of it is rooted in gender inequality. Maybe "awareness" and educating women on the signs of potential abusive relationships early on would help. Maybe because I'm hyper-aware of sex discrimination in general, I study domestic violence, I've seen Lifetime movies since I was a child, my parents drilled all of these things into my head, I'm more aware of the signs and patterns. I have a low tolerance for repetitive disrespect already so I don't know how I'd react, I don't know. I know it's also easy to put oneself in denial.No woman ever intends to end up in an abusive relationship, but once you develop real feelings for someone it makes it hard to leave.
I really do think part of the "solution" is knowing about the patterns. There's just so much to battle here! What my mom would do was have me watch Lifetime movies when I was little about abused women who would eventually get killed and my parents made me promise that I'd never let anyone treat me that way. It's sad a little girl would have to learn about these things, but it's best to teach them while they're young. I don't think there's any use sugar-coating it or not wanting to have a potentially awkward conversation or thinking "she's too young!" No! I also learned about drug trafficking, jails in Latin America, other things, that's for another time, but you can say I've been aware of a lot since I was tiny and I'm happy about that.I don't look like a typical domestic violence survivor. I have a B.A. in English from Harvard College, an MBA in marketing from Wharton Business School. I've spent most of my career working for Fortune 500 companies including Johnson & Johnson, Leo Burnett and The Washington Post. I've been married for almost 20 years to my second husband and we have three kids together.
So my first message for you is that domestic violence happens to everyone -- all races, all religions, all income and education levels. It's everywhere. Over 85 percent of abusers are men, and domestic abuse happens only in intimate, interdependent, long-term relationships, in other words, in families, the last place we would want or expect to find violence, which is one reason domestic abuse is so confusing.
I would have told you myself that I was the last person on Earth who would stay with a man who beats me, but in fact I was a very typical victim because of my age. I was 22, and in the United States, women ages 16 to 24 are three times as likely to be domestic violence victims as women of other ages, and over 500 women and girls this age are killed every year by abusive partners, boyfriends, and husbands in the United States.
I was also a very typical victim because I knew nothing about domestic violence, its warning signs or its patterns. (...)
If you had told me that this smart, funny, sensitive man who adored me would one day dictate whether or not I wore makeup, how short my skirts were, where I lived, what jobs I took, who my friends were and where I spent Christmas, I would have laughed at you, because there was not a hint of violence or control or anger in Conor at the beginning. I didn't know that the first stage in any domestic violence relationship is to seduce and charm the victim.
I also didn't know that the second step is to isolate the victim. Now, Conor did not come home one day and announce, "You know, hey, all this Romeo and Juliet stuff has been great, but I need to move into the next phase where I isolate you and I abuse you" — (Laughter) — "so I need to get you out of this apartment where the neighbors can hear you scream and out of this city where you have friends and family and coworkers who can see the bruises." (...)
The next step in the domestic violence pattern is to introduce the threat of violence and see how she reacts. (...)
Despite what had happened, I was sure we were going to live happily ever after, because I loved him, and he loved me so much. And he was very, very sorry. He had just been really stressed out by the wedding and by becoming a family with me. It was an isolated incident, and he was never going to hurt me again.
YES.The other question everybody asks is, why doesn't she just leave? Why didn't I walk out? I could have left any time. To me, this is the saddest and most painful question that people ask, because we victims know something you usually don't: It's incredibly dangerous to leave an abuser. Because the final step in the domestic violence pattern is kill her. Over 70 percent of domestic violence murders happen after the victim has ended the relationship, after she's gotten out, because then the abuser has nothing left to lose. Other outcomes include long-term stalking, even after the abuser remarries; denial of financial resources; and manipulation of the family court system to terrify the victim and her children, who are regularly forced by family court judges to spend unsupervised time with the man who beat their mother. And still we ask, why doesn't she just leave?
LOOOOOOOOOOL. I don't even know what to say because that was perfect.Wandering_Fox wrote:^ I know I've seen pictures of you in nearly that exact same outfit~ If you ever meet her, you should get a picture together, especially if you're wearing the same thing! Or go up to her and say, "I'm you from the future. Here, let me give you a collection of Chinese literature. Trust me, these will be invaluable."
Of course! Since it never starts out as an abusive relationship you develop feelings and you know, you tend to make excuses or rationalize things and controlling behavior... and that's only one part of it! It often happens subtly at first and then grows over time without you realizing it. Even when it gets to the physical point one can rationalize it because he will ALWAYS say he's sorry, give him a chance, it was just that one time, he didn't know what he was doing, etc. Since abusive relationships are long ones, with an initial happy courtship, there will be that willingness to forgive.And I can't stand it when people say, "Not being able to leave an abusive relationship shows that you're weak". It's obvious anyone who says that has never actually been in on that is mentally and physically abusive and has no idea what it's like. I've never been in that situation myself, but I have a very good friend who has and we talked about it in length after the fact and it's still very hard to process. It's just mind blowing what is running through your mind and what you are tricked (or trick yourself) into believing.
PureElegance wrote:We then walked to where Alexander Hamilton is buried and I said, "He's so sexy."
My grandma gives us shirts with beer logos and armpit stains along with torn up pursesWandering_Fox wrote:My grandmother gave me a stuffed dog when I was two (the moment I received it is my first memory) and it came with a little blue bone with white polka-dots. I lost the bone a LONG time ago but I still have the dog and he sits on my bed, still wearing his original clothes, even though they've all but deteriorated by now.
Tell me about it!Especially now, 210 years later