The Sexuality Poll

[rizumu]

I'm Jui-sexual.

 

[lady_toast]

Straight female here.

 

[Catharsis]

Straight female :B

 

[Berserk]

Umm... I might have read it wrong, because I just skimmed through the pages, but I'm not bisexual, and I have a crush on a trans guy [born female]. I might start dating him soon too, although I'm attracted to him as a male and not a female.

Here's the thing: Peoples' sexual attractions are based heavily in pheromonal attraction. Also, no matter how much you make yourself look like the other gender, you still have the genetics of a male/female. This "guy" is still releasing female pheromones that might even be capable of arousing straight males.

I mean, if a "straight" guy was sexually attracted to another male that looked effeminate... I wouldn't really call him heterosexual. So for you to be attracted to a female that has altered herself to appear male isn't exactly homosexual either.

EDIT: lol, I'm not trying to argue with you about your sexual orientation (I mean, you're the only person who can decide what it is), but that's just something to think about.

 

[KK]

I think whether or not being gay is genetic, it's the environment that makes so many people, especially girls it seems, say that they are bi. I honestly think anyone could be attracted, to some extent, to people of any gender if they wanted to be. I was reading this book called "Queer By Choice" once (but then I got too busy to finish >_<) and it talked about interesting things sort of like that....or maybe not that interesting....sjfkla

Oh and I'm a straight female And I actually think I to some extent choose not to be attracted to girls, because they're just so obnoxious Not that I'm trying to deny my secret lesbian-ness, but if I decided I wanted to be bi I think I could be just as much as anyone else.

 

[Iskanderia]

And I actually think I to some extent choose not to be attracted to girls, because they're just so obnoxious

This was always a problem for me. Even though I'm more attracted to women physically (maybe a 4.5 on the Kinsey scale), I have never had many female friends and I really just don't get a long with other girls that well. Because I get along with guys better, I've dated more of them and even ended up marrying one.

 

[sailorKa]

They're called Lipstick Lesbians. xD

Hm? I thought Lipstick Lesbians are lesbians who are uber girly and like uber girly girls...then, I wouldn't know I suppose.

Oh, no. You're mostly right. I wasn't aware of that meaning and according to wikipedia that's the main meaning however...

The term has also been reinterpreted as a derogatory reference to feigned lesbianism — implying that it is as easy as lipstick to add or remove.

which is the term's definition I'd seen used. Sorry for any confusion! >_<
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Bisexuality wasn't exactly a fad at that time (1993) and especially not in that place. I wonder if anyone would've even batted an eyelash over it had it been 2007.

Things have definitely changed. I don't live in USA so I can't vouch for it but in an interview done to Christopher Rice he said that this generation of GLBTQ kids are just so AWARE of everything.
He said that when he does book signings, kids go him and say that they're on the "GLB" alliance on their high-school, which just blows him away that these kids know where they're standing and support each other from so early on. He said that he couldn't imagine how different his high school experience would've been if things such as a Gay and Lesbian Alliance existed back then, and he graduated from high school not THAT long ago.

@Amatsu: Maybe what you read was my saying that you might be bi-romantic yet homosexual, which means someone who can fall in love with people from both genders yet be attracted physically to males. I didn't mean to say you were bi just because you've gotten crushes on girls, I merely suggested that since they didn't push you to get physical perhaps.... well, whatever. xD
And let me give you 1000 kudos for dating a trans guy. They don't feel any different from any other dude and so people should treat them that way.

@Berserk: D: I disagree with your post completely. Saying that any gay guy who's attracted to a transman makes him more "het" is completely nonsensical(and just a tad bit insulting, for personal reasons).

So if a completely heterosexual guy falls in love with a transwoman, even if she's very feminine like the members from VENUS FLYTRAP, the guy's being gay?
That kind of reasoning is what makes many trans people suffer when finding a couple. >_<
But its your opinion, so~

EDIT: I sound kind of defensive/angry here. >_< Don't take it that way, Berserk. Maybe it sounds defensive cuz the subject hit a bit too close to home but I'm interested in your reply.

--k

 

[Miruku]

I don't knooow~

I mean.. I don't want to "decide" on anything, because I'm only 15, and things change a lot when you're a teenager, but.. Though I may find some guys pretty or goodlooking I've never been attracted by a guy like *that*, and... I just can't imagine myself with other than girls, I have made out with guys too but... it wasn't really the same x) It's hard to describe when I don't know myself.. <.<

 

[Formless]

Yeah, I'm straight. o__o

 

[yun]

I don't know what to choose -_-"

My first real sexe relation was with a girl but I've date with boys before.
And now I had have sexe relation with guy...

I love to kiss eveyone.. I don't care if it's a guy or a girl... but for sexe I think it's more easy to do it with female because I know their body (because it's the same as me XD)
.. I'm more intimidate with male... I don't really know what to do sometime and I feel guilty of not knowing <_<.....

so I love both.... but .... when I try to imagine me in ten years I must say that I'm more imaginating me marry with a boy and having children....

maybe I'm with girl "for fun"?

so if someone can help me to vote XD;

 

[evespikey]

Bisexual female here~
Being a bisexual female is a huge fad in my area. Girls like to flirt with it because it's extreme and will get them noticed. When really that just irritates the people who are actually bisexual. Another annoying thing about being bisexual is if you mention you're attracted to girls, people think you're a lesbian. When in fact you're just as equally attracted to males and females.

 

[Emirufish]

Okay, crap I should restate this.

In being Julia-sexual....

I am attracted to people regardless on their gender. However in a perfect world, my partner would be genetically male, but would dress female and have breasts.

And I actually have a partner who fits that description pretty well. Well..he has stick-on breasts.....

Also, I know some of us like crossdressing since discovering Visual kei, but I was into crossdressing since like...years before. If I were male, I'd crossdress but I'm not. I think what it is that maybe I'm straight, but I hate masculinity. So I want a boy who's also a girl. I don't know and I don't understand it myself. And I've been this way since I was a kid >_<; My parents actually know this. They don't know what to do with me, so they pretend it doesn't exist.

 

[boi de memoire]

yeah, Straight Girls are the best, lol

 

[Kadaj]

I could say I'm a bisexual female...

I've got a girlfriend, but I'm really in love with Yu~ki-sama, plus I love to hug boys...they're way too cute!

@yun How interesting! LoL XP

 

[yun]

@ kajad:
interesting XD
but I still don't know what to vote -o-

 

[Akane]

Bisexual female. ^.^
SPEAKING OF MY FIRST GIRLFRIEND-
4 years ago she got taken away from her parents and was put into foster care and I haven't seen her since . ithink about her all the time
and I found out today she came back to my town
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m
g
I will find her GODDAMNIT

 

[Kamijo]

^ D: scaryyyyyyyyyyy.

 

[sailorKa]

@Akane: Geez, that's the material those mushy romantic movies are made from!!! CHASE HER!!! XD

@Julia: I've always loved cross-dressing. Probably why I started liking VK visually. xD
You have very specific tastes, which reminds me I'm glad I'm not actively sexual because if I were, God only knows what I'd be attracted to. XD
But kudos to you for finding what you want! So many people settle for much less because they think that their tastes are out of the possible but truth is, there are lots of weird people in the world and every shoe's got its pair. ;D xD

--k

 

[Emirufish]

OMG you're so right about people settling because they think it's impossible to live out their....fetishes? My fiancee, Nonnon was actually married several years ago and he NEVER told his first wife about the fact that he wanted to crossdress/be more feminine. They divorced for other reasons but, a LOT of people I know that are married or have girlfriends, have a SECRET crossdressing life. I think it's awful and scary >_<; I could never live like that. But it's unfortunate that a lot of people in this world just won't put up with such things.

Actually, I remember when I first talked to Nonnon about this. Well, before we started going out, I very loudly hinted to him "I CAN'T DATE A GUY WHO DOESN'T CROSSDRESS!" And he's like...what? Huh? Why? How? And then he asked me to marry him as a joke...but little did he know that I would make him actually follow through


To tell the truth, the first thing that attracted me to visual kei was the girly men......ehehehe...I don't want to admit it, but it was...

 

[boi de memoire]

that's quite some story Emirufish =O